Yeah... it was never anything major, but then I suppose when talking about the impact of disrespect on a relationship, it is all those small things that become the biggest thing.

I suppose what I mean is that by the time I really spent time with you two together, I didn't know what had led you to that point, you know? Had it always been that way?

I think your earlier observation of your mutual failure to engage with the other fits here too... kind of along the respect/disrespect continuum. I read an article recently that argues that is *the* thing that keeps people together or drives them apart. I think they described it as a "turning toward the other."

It's like that line from that Dar Williams song: "I don't know what you saw; I want somebody who sees me."