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[jianantonic]

I've lost almost 15 pounds since the beginning of April. I'm feeling pretty good about it -- my goal weight is 11 pounds away. Definitely doable, probably sustainable. I've made some really healthy changes lately, and I intend to keep up with them. Something has really struck me about this, though -- none of my friends, or guys that I date, have said a word about it. Toby and I talk about it because I report back to him after my weigh-ins and we eat a lot of meals together so of course he's in on the whole thing, and he's proud of me (but says all the right things about how he finds me beautiful at any weight).

My weight loss is absolutely noticeable. But no one -- even the people I get naked with -- has said anything. This does not offend me or hurt my feelings. I think it's kind of great. I think it speaks to how little my friends care about/judge appearances. It means all those times I got in the hot tub with friends and wondered what they were thinking about how I'd put on weight, they weren't thinking about it. It means the guys I date haven't been forcing themselves to see past something they didn't like. It means the people around me respect that my body is my business and has zero to do with our relationships. I really appreciate that.

In the bridge community, everyone -- even people I don't know! -- feels they have a right -- nay, an obligation -- to comment on my appearance. And I used to say "thanks," but...in hindsight I feel a little icked out that so many people wanted to talk about my body. 

Comments

[emily gercke (from livejournal.com)]

YES a thousand times YES. It took me a long time to be okay with the fact that Chris (and others, but mostly Chris) never commented on my appearance or weight, mostly when I was feeling good and wanted to be complimented. But now I am continually thankful that nothing about my physical exterior figures into my value for him; it just doesn't even register.

[deepseasiren.livejournal.com]

If you're really tall, weight gain or loss isn't as noticeable as when you're shorter. I'm happy you're coming close to your goal. :) And most men, no matter what, appreciate the female form PERIOD, regardless of the media always throwing skinny images at us.