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Jul. 22nd, 2017 09:02 pmIt is so much easier to be there for friends when I can have the conversation, "what does your therapist say about this?"
I am not a trained professional, and I'm predisposed to take your side even when you're wrong af, so you should not trust me to bear the entire weight of your emotional baggage.
People who boohoo about how difficult their life is, but blow off the idea of therapy because they tried it once and it "didn't work" or any other excuse, are assholes who put unfair burdens on their friends.
I have sympathy for the barrier to entry for therapy. Finding a therapist you can afford and who has openings for you is not easy. Summoning the motivation to make the calls is like climbing a mountain. But refusing to try is shitty. I have a million times more patience for my friends' issues when they're actively working on them. I'm happy to talk through anything with the people I love, provided I am not the sole counselor.
I've been talking a lot with a friend who is going through some really difficult stuff right now. She keeps apologizing to me and thanking me for listening and talking. And honestly, it feels GOOD to be there for her. And I'm so relieved every time I see her suffering that she'll be able to talk it over with a professional within the week. I can hold the bandaids on between sessions.
I'm also so grateful for all my friends who act as my bandaids, too. It's no surprise the people I leaned on heavily before therapy are no longer in my life.
I am not a trained professional, and I'm predisposed to take your side even when you're wrong af, so you should not trust me to bear the entire weight of your emotional baggage.
People who boohoo about how difficult their life is, but blow off the idea of therapy because they tried it once and it "didn't work" or any other excuse, are assholes who put unfair burdens on their friends.
I have sympathy for the barrier to entry for therapy. Finding a therapist you can afford and who has openings for you is not easy. Summoning the motivation to make the calls is like climbing a mountain. But refusing to try is shitty. I have a million times more patience for my friends' issues when they're actively working on them. I'm happy to talk through anything with the people I love, provided I am not the sole counselor.
I've been talking a lot with a friend who is going through some really difficult stuff right now. She keeps apologizing to me and thanking me for listening and talking. And honestly, it feels GOOD to be there for her. And I'm so relieved every time I see her suffering that she'll be able to talk it over with a professional within the week. I can hold the bandaids on between sessions.
I'm also so grateful for all my friends who act as my bandaids, too. It's no surprise the people I leaned on heavily before therapy are no longer in my life.